By Aubrey Coleman, CAPM

We’ve all heard the saying, “birds of a feather flock together,” and there’s a bit of truth to that. We feel seen and understood by those who share similar experiences, perspectives, or ways of being — our flock. Their presence resonates with us. They relate to our struggles, celebrate our victories, and offer empathy because they’ve travelled similar paths. Think about the people you feel closest to. Chances are, you share certain thoughts, experiences, and challenges. 

But just because someone doesn’t know the texture of your feathers, or isn’t the same type of bird, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t extend the same level of kindness and compassion. Everyone deserves to be seen. Everyone has a voice and a story worth listening to — a presence that matters. 

It’s easy to connect with those who are in our flock, because we see a bit of ourselves in them. Awareness and inclusion, however, ask us to extend that same recognition and empathy to those whose experiences, perspectives, or “feathers” differ from our own. Being truly inclusive means noticing, listening, and valuing people even when we don’t immediately relate, because everyone deserves to be seen and understood. 

So how can we make sure we are truly seeing those around us, even if their experiences are different from ours? Here are some simple practices: 

• Listen with curiosity. Approach conversations with genuine interest, even if you don’t immediately relate. 

• Ask questions. Small gestures like asking, “How are you feeling about this?” can make someone feel recognized. 

• Notice the small things. Pay attention to body language, tone, or subtle signs that someone may need support. 

• Validate their experience. Acknowledging someone’s perspective, even if it differs from yours, lets them know they are truly seen. 

Extending empathy and compassion across differences is what allows communities to thrive. We may not share the same feathers, but we all share the same need to be noticed, understood, and valued. Awareness and inclusion call on us to approach others with a mindset focused on really seeing them, not just for what we have in common, but for the fullness of their experiences and perspectives. When we intentionally listen and honor each person’s unique journey, we strengthen connections and help build a world where every bird belongs.  

Let’s commit to practicing this every day and reach beyond our familiar flocks to ensure that everyone feels seen and valued.